NANCY ROXANNE: Just how well do you cope with his annoying boys? [OPINION]

You and your beau’s friends have 'no love lost between you'. They are a bunch of stressful clowns, and you absolutely cannot stand them :p! That however should not be a deal breaker. There are bigger problems in a relationship than a bunch of guys on the sidelines, who don’t necessarily approve of you. That said, you should not even for a minute think that how you relate to them doesn’t matter. It does.

In some instances, your whole relationship might revolve around how well you relate with his boys. Your boyfriend might just heed their advice if they never have anything good to say about you. So, how do you overcome this little huddle in the relationship? The following tips might steer you in the right direction.

Don’t give him ultimatums Making your man choose between you and his friends is shooting yourself in the foot. They have been around for awhile. If you think you can just walk into his life and make him drop his lifelong friends for you, then you are in for a big surprise. Don’t throw a fit when he hangs out with them Just because you hate their guts doesn’t mean you should dictate when your boyfriend should hang out with his buddies. Every man needs his ‘guys’ time. Throwing a tantrum every time he steps out with his boys will cause unnecessary friction in the relationship. Trust me, his friends will hate you all the more

Try to get along with them If you and your boyfriend are in it for the long haul, you should try and establish a good rapport with his friends, no matter how difficult. Put your ill feelings, if any, aside and try and find a common ground. If they realise your good intentions, they will definitely come around. When you hang out with them, try and exercise an open mind. Who knows, you might actually end up liking them.

Treat them with respect No man will take kindly to any sign of disrespect towards his friends. No matter how bad the situation gets, be the bigger person and give them their due respect. You might even end up scoring more points with your man. Stooping to their level will only escalate the situation.

Don’t compromise your self-respect In your attempt to make peace with them, never compromise your self-respect. Respect is a two-way street. If they want to be shown respect, they have to treat you with respect as well. Do not take any discourtesy lying down. Learn to stand up for yourself.

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