Exposé - Tricks To Make People Like You In 5 Seconds Or Less

It only takes a few seconds for people to begin judging you after you meet for the first time. Those initial seconds can be the difference between impressing some, getting a new job, or not even getting a ‘thank you’ call. It can be the difference between a second date, or an ‘it’s not you, it’s me’ text message. With some proper advice, good body language, and commitment to using what you learn, you can make any person completely fall for you.

Step 1: “Hello, old friend.”
The first time you meet someone, imagine that they are someone who you used to consider a really good friend. This will cause a lot of subconscious reactions in your body, that includes everything from the softening of your eyebrows to the positioning of your toes. Your subconscious mind will automatically begin to give you a relaxed demeanor and good posture. Another benefit to pretending like they’re an old friend is that when you act as though you already like someone, you are more likely to actually start liking them. It’s like the old saying says: love begets love, like begets like, respect begets respect.

Step 2: Open Up!
A firm handshake should be a given, so we won’t even address that. However, it’s important to open up. By opening up, we don’t mean revealing your deep, dark secrets within the first minute of meeting someone new. We mean literally open up your body. People are very conscious of how you react to them. When you meet someone new, turn your body fully toward them and give them the same, undivided attention you would give a baby. With a positive attitude, you should aim your heart directly at the person you’re meeting. Do not cover your heart with your hands or your arms. If you’re wearing a jacket, remember to unbutton it beforehand.

You will also want to lean into the person you are meeting. Obviously, there’s no need to fall over into the person you’re meeting. An imperceptible forward tilt will show that you agree open to and interested in what they have to say.

Step 3: Eye Contact!
This may seem like a given, but you’d be surprised how many people avoid eye contact upon meeting someone for the first time. When it appears that you are avoiding eye contact, it may appear that you have no interest in meeting them or are overly nervous. If you are in a group, make eye contact with whoever is speaking. When you are speaking, make eye contact with the people you are speaking to.
If are uncomfortable making eye contact, there several strategies for getting comfortable with it. When you’re watching a movie or TV, note the eye color of the people on camera and say the name of the color in your head. When you meet people the next day, do the same thing. This is also a good way to remember names. Another way to overcome your fear is to make eye contact with the other person’s nose.

You should keep in mind that eye contact should also depend on where you are located. In many some cultures, intense eye contact between the same genders is often a symbol of trust and sincerity however, between opposite genders, especially in Muslim cultures, anything more than brief eye contact is considered inappropriate.

Step 4: Be Happy!
There’s a difference between someone who is so happy it’s annoying and a person who is realistically happy. Don’t be so happy that you come on too strong. However, make sure you beam. When you’re introduced to someone, consider it a privilege. Everybody has something to teach you, and that should be enough to put a smile on your face. Smiling immediately sends a message that you’re sincere. Multiple studies also prove that smiling when you meet someone in a happy context is a useful way to get them to remember you.

Step 5: Don't overdo it!

Do not, under any circumstances, overdo any of the above pointers. GOOD LUCK on your next encounter :)

Credit: Life Hackers/Anonymous